2. When he’s with her, she doesn’t want him to be self-conscious about being unpopular in the past.
Some Japanese women told us that they don’t want their boyfriends to talk negatively about the fact that they were not popular with girls before. “I never want to hear him say something negative, like ‘I’m just X anyway,’” said a woman in her 20s. Instead of looking down on yourself for your past, say something positive about the present like, “I’m so glad you fell in love with me,” to show that you are grateful to have her.