4. When she doesn’t have any plans for the holidays.
Japan offers quite a few national holidays for people to enjoy over long weekends. “I didn’t even have a plan to R&R from the daily obligations. I felt devastated when I realized that I wasn’t living my life to the fullest,” recalls one Japanese woman in her 20s. When she doesn’t have friends (much less a boyfriend) to spend the holidays with, she can’t help but feel lonely and vulnerable. You have nothing to lose—go ahead and ask her out. “Do you have any plans for the holiday? Do you want to get together?” She may appreciate you even more for offering to pull her out of her isolation and boredom.