4. “I know it’s been miserable for you, but soon, you’ll find someone special—I’m sure of it.”
Tell her that she’s a wonderful person and that a new relationship is just around the corner. “When I’m reminded that there are more guys out there, I feel I can go on,” one Japanese woman said in her 30s as she wiped her tears. “I actually had someone tell me that not too long ago and I remember feeling so much better afterwards,” recalls another Japanese woman in her late 20s. In this situation, you just have to help them open their eyes and to see the bigger picture. While this is effective in cheering women up, it may not be enough to suddenly make an appeal for the role you’d like to play in her life. You may want to tell her, “You’re so pretty…a lot of guys will fight over you.”