5. “Your ex is a fool to break up with you.”
By saying that her ex is a fool to dump her, you’re implying that you think she’s a wonderful woman. “When I heard that, I started to think that I had been dating the wrong person,” a wide-eyed Japanese woman in her late teens tells us. “He said that my ex was not a good judge of character. It crossed my mind that he may appreciate me more,” a Japanese woman in her 20s shared who reconsidered her options. Unless the breakup was initiated by her, this approach works well to share what you think of her. In any event, it’s wise to get the whole story of her breakup before you make a comment about her ex.