Everyone feels hopeless right after a break up. If you can be sensitive to her needs and fill the void, you may be able to earn her trust and become her confidant. Today, we asked Japanese women, ranging in age from late teens to mid-20s, to share their opinions about what kind of encouragement they would benefit from when they’re heartbroken and in a self-destructive mood.
1. “You must’ve been devastated.” Be compassionate.
“I don’t need an opinion or advice. I just need him to comfort me,” explains one Japanese woman in her late teens. Don’t push her to talk if she’s not ready. She only needs you to be by her side, listen to what she has to say—if she has anything to say—and console her.